Dealing With Denying Force

My momma never told me “Life is like a box of chocolates,” but she has told me repeatedly that when you want to make a positive change in your life, it’s very common to hit some kind of resistance or “denying force,” as if the Universe is saying “Really? Are you sure you want that?”

Wherever you want to go next, there’s a process for getting there, and that process includes moving through challenges:

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1. Affirming “This is what I want!”

2. Denying “Here’s what’s in the way.”

3. Achieving “I got what I want, now what’s next?” 

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Here’s an example from my own life…

It started out with celebrating how I was having the most relaxed and pleasurable launch ever.

That was the affirming phase, “This is what I want… to inspire thousands of entrepreneurs all over the world through this launch while still taking amazing care of myself and having a fabulous life outside of work.”

Then came the denying force…

Shortly after the launch started, I was hit with a ridiculous number of tech issues:

• My website crashing… repeatedly

• My e-mail addresses randomly not working all of a sudden

• People getting two confirmation e-mails when they sign up for my paid offer… one of them wrong

• My video player malfunctioning and getting a gazillion e-mails about how my videos weren’t working

• Having the wrong web form on one of my sites so people were getting the wrong information 

For one of my training calls, we ran into a scheduling challenge and had to pre-record the training. Then we ran into a tech challenge… the platform I was using didn’t let you broadcast pre-recorded presentations that had slides, which this one did.

Here’s the good news… while I did feel irritated at times, I didn’t freak out. I didn’t abandon my self-care practices. I just kept moving forward. And I was really proud of myself for that.

I wanted to share this with you because this is the kind of stuff that other experts don’t often talk about. 

If you’ve hit denying force (and if you’ve run into challenges with technology), you are not alone. And you haven’t failed or done anything wrong. This is just part of the growth process. So take a deep breath and keep moving forward.